tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post4318454462593432852..comments2024-03-08T13:31:43.180+00:00Comments on This is me Sarah mum of 3: you'll make him gay!Sarahmumof3http://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-44956106171706576582012-05-08T21:33:21.692+01:002012-05-08T21:33:21.692+01:00What a brilliant post. I haven't had the '...What a brilliant post. I haven't had the 'you'll make him gay' but i have had the ' oh you wanted a girl really' because my son has very long hair. Your entire post says what I feel.The Monkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-27460391624314236232012-03-21T12:54:55.822+00:002012-03-21T12:54:55.822+00:00Thank you for your comments, It is a shame when pe...Thank you for your comments, It is a shame when people like your Uncle react in that way, if one of his boys happens to be gay they would feel totally awful and try to hide it. I think allowing children to grow up and experience everything just maes them much more rounded, it most certainly can not make them gay.Sarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-61919413467880067732012-03-20T22:00:50.786+00:002012-03-20T22:00:50.786+00:00Great post here, I totally agree with you, especia...Great post here, I totally agree with you, especially about the hair comments! Me and my partner are both alternative and I guess narrow minded people would call us "goths", and when my friends found out I was pregnant with a boy I got ignorant comments like "are you going to let him grow his hair?" and "are you going to get his ears pierced?" which really annoyed me. What has that got do with anything? I remarked that if it was what he wanted when he was the right age to get his ears pierced then yes, of course I would let him, to which they responded "he's going to be gay!" I don't understand! My partner has both long hair and pierced ears and he is obviously not gay! My brothers were little ruffians growing up, they climbed trees, played with cars and video games, liked football etc, but they also had a feminine side which my Mum encouraged- one brother used to like dressing up in my skirts and dresses to role play with me, the same one used to doll himself up with hair gel and body spray so he "looked good", one was and still is very into musicals and singing and acting and the youngest one liked me painting his nails, watching girly films with me and playing with our younger sister's barbies and baby born dolls. I don't see how that could have any negative effect on them, all it taught them was to be themselves, not to be restricted by so called "rules" and to do what makes them happy. My Uncle on the other hand, who is very "old fashioned" and I believe subtly homophobic, would absolutely go mental if either of his two boys shown any side of femininity. They weren't allowed to bake, colour in, sing, dance and even to this day he makes them wear tracksuits, play xbox, watch wrestling and boxing, he even encourages them to leer at women and they're both under the age of 15! He has been heard many times to shout at them for "acting like a queer" and has said if they turn out gay he'll "beat it out of them!" how disgusting! If Jared is gay, I would have no problem with it at all! I'd rather him be happy!<br /><br />I also agree about the hair cuts by the way- I find little boys with gorgeous long locks so very adorable!Ashleighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13395538414779678749noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-54621225643612617712012-03-17T12:45:11.075+00:002012-03-17T12:45:11.075+00:00You can always count on The Sun for the usual comm...You can always count on The Sun for the usual comments about gender stereotypes etc. Sounds like your approach is spot on to me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-10193073133731856582012-03-16T23:27:39.059+00:002012-03-16T23:27:39.059+00:00It is crazy that people actually say these things....It is crazy that people actually say these things. Boys will be boys. It is only natural for them to experiment. My younger brother had a toy make up set when he was a kid! It has done him no harm. He had his own dolly and pushchair and I can't see the problem.<br /><br />If Leo wants to wear pink or have long hair then that is fine with me. xxxLaurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07693927098032739132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-4433557699034721142012-03-16T20:42:12.688+00:002012-03-16T20:42:12.688+00:00I've also mentioned this post here http://atwe...I've also mentioned this post here http://atwentysomethingmum.blogspot.com/p/weekly-round-up.htmlAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-65193328642089854272012-03-16T19:46:32.023+00:002012-03-16T19:46:32.023+00:00Mikey went through a spell of wearing pretty neckl...Mikey went through a spell of wearing pretty necklaces for ages but now he wouldn't let me dress him in girly clothes, they find their own identity and while they are young theres nothing you can do that will 'make them gay' if they happen to be gay later in life it would have no bearing on if they wore their mums shoes and hairbands xxSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-18695562460455987332012-03-16T19:43:44.820+00:002012-03-16T19:43:44.820+00:00I think some boys just don't suit long hair, a...I think some boys just don't suit long hair, and others look great with longer hair, I'm not sure I'd let my boys have hair longer than Chloes but then I guess if they wanted it really long then why not, I guess its the same with girls havign really short hair, but less people seem to have opinions on that, its always more aceptable for girls to have relaly short cuts.Sarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-76386520090558375272012-03-16T19:39:22.919+00:002012-03-16T19:39:22.919+00:00Sorry it wouldn't let me edit. I obviously mea...Sorry it wouldn't let me edit. I obviously meant young children! <br /><br />Many to say I only have girls so don't know how I would actually behave wit boys. I prefer shorter boys haircuts myself but if they wanted to have longer hair I think i would let them.Rebecca Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05172015190746277400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-17755677166583032122012-03-16T19:39:11.659+00:002012-03-16T19:39:11.659+00:00its so much more fun playing with your sisters toy...its so much more fun playing with your sisters toys :)Sarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-53574268781827619632012-03-16T19:37:54.145+00:002012-03-16T19:37:54.145+00:00Brilliant post! I think lung children should be al...Brilliant post! I think lung children should be allowed to explore their identity and not pushed into stereotypes while they are young.Rebecca Englishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05172015190746277400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-52620538272898768922012-03-16T19:37:10.735+00:002012-03-16T19:37:10.735+00:00Boys with longer hair sure do look cute my mum alw...Boys with longer hair sure do look cute my mum always suggests getting my boys hairs cut too but they are only young once`they will soon be telling us exsactly how THEY want it xxSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-63406927016216723382012-03-16T19:35:46.091+00:002012-03-16T19:35:46.091+00:00I agree with really short hair, I always say it ma...I agree with really short hair, I always say it maes them loo too normal when their hair is cut short lol I love the fact having longer hair makes them more unique xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-63410551679811513802012-03-16T19:33:42.467+00:002012-03-16T19:33:42.467+00:00Thanks Wendy, I love free spirited little boys lik...Thanks Wendy, I love free spirited little boys like your Freddy :) xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-775335555237094312012-03-16T19:33:18.074+00:002012-03-16T19:33:18.074+00:00Thanks for commenting little boys with curls are o...Thanks for commenting little boys with curls are oh so cute hope you can keep your littles ones curls for abit longer before gettign them chopped :) xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-55631927027508406142012-03-16T19:29:59.578+00:002012-03-16T19:29:59.578+00:00I think most little boys love to play with dolls :...I think most little boys love to play with dolls :) xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-55076433698548540202012-03-16T19:28:55.196+00:002012-03-16T19:28:55.196+00:00I agree happiness is the only important thing, jus...I agree happiness is the only important thing, just sometimes society frowns on the things that make us happy xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-34359322384385696482012-03-16T19:28:21.155+00:002012-03-16T19:28:21.155+00:00thank you, I love to see boys playing with dolls a...thank you, I love to see boys playing with dolls and wearing a princess dress, as much as I love seeing a girl climb trees :) xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-64570818744548277082012-03-16T19:25:42.849+00:002012-03-16T19:25:42.849+00:00This is an excellent post and it's something I...This is an excellent post and it's something I have thought about a lot-the whole 'you'll make him gay' thing. I get it a lot from my in-laws because I let Joshua play with dollies and walk around with an old handbag of mine and sometimes he even wear a sparkly hairband!! I think the hair thing is totally up to us, I've not cut Joshi's hair yet and there is nothing wrong with either of us allowing our sons to have longer hair! xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-83786767497037078292012-03-16T19:23:31.555+00:002012-03-16T19:23:31.555+00:00Thansk for commenting :) I must admit these photos...Thansk for commenting :) I must admit these photos don't really do the long hair is great much justice with them showing how messy it can look, but they showed the freedom point i thought x I do like boys with short hair, its just I like it long too! :) xSarahmumof3https://www.blogger.com/profile/03928332640674423684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-56594406704545645142012-03-16T17:11:44.010+00:002012-03-16T17:11:44.010+00:00Me again. Having looked again at the photos here t...Me again. Having looked again at the photos here though I think your children all look great just as they are :)JallieDaddyhttp://whiskeyforaftershave.com/2012/03/14/once-upon-a-time-in-the-west-midlands/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-78723851066268981202012-03-16T17:06:58.985+00:002012-03-16T17:06:58.985+00:00We have no problems with our boy (also Jake!) wear...We have no problems with our boy (also Jake!) wearing tights, they're just practical. not sure about the shocking pink tho... <br /><br />I have to admit to being old-fashioned about hair though, I tend to think boys sometimes look a bit odd with long hair. Jake really suits short hair though I thinkJallieDaddyhttp://whiskeyforaftershave.com/2012/03/14/once-upon-a-time-in-the-west-midlands/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-65889205558763395592012-03-16T15:42:39.021+00:002012-03-16T15:42:39.021+00:00Good for you. I hate hearing nonsense like 'hi...Good for you. I hate hearing nonsense like 'his dad would go mad if I put him in a pink top'. What a load of tosh! My boys play with whatever they like, whether it's a car or a pushchair. So long as they're happy I don't care about anything else. Great post and lovely photos xsanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12004801243819162845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-7572470412677463962012-03-16T15:40:30.850+00:002012-03-16T15:40:30.850+00:00my son is always dressing up in his cousins baller...my son is always dressing up in his cousins ballerina dresses and princess costumes, i have no problem with it at all, what ever make him happy :) xLeopard Print Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01774557914442601571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8829710682305692388.post-23143118776231775482012-03-16T15:32:49.849+00:002012-03-16T15:32:49.849+00:00I remember my hubby's face when I came home wi...I remember my hubby's face when I came home with a buggy and a doll for my wee one. John loves to play with dolls and his favourite thing at the moment is wearing my shoes and putting on scarves! I am totally comfortable with him exploring everything that life has to offer him. I am here to support him to be who he wants to be not to shape him into who I want him to be. He also has longer hair although my cousin cuts it every couple of months because it is so thick and curly it ends up untameable!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08348745294283859920noreply@blogger.com